Free Yourself From Helplessness And Depression
One of the central notions I briefly added relates to helplessness. Let’s explore how you can reduce the impact of this mistaken belief, as helplessness is a significant factor in these conditions. All through to free yourself from depression and helplessness.Â
Free yourself from Depression and Helplessness with this Key
It’s a terrible feeling to think that you have no control over your life, and I write this from a place of private joy. Years of traumatic experiences instilled in me the belief that life was synonymous with pain and suffering. I genuinely thought that there was nothing I could do to prevent life’s unfolding from being detrimental to me.
Perhaps you’ve experienced something similar.
The critical element in this scenario is the underlying belief. The prevalent belief is that your life is something that unfolds without your control. You feel helpless, like a passive recipient of whatever life throws your way.
Living in such a state is a dreadful experience. Moreover, this belief is unquestionably false.
An example of an illustration
Let me give you an example. Imagine you and your partner have broken up. This could be a very traumatic experience; many people, including myself, have been through it. You react in a truly terrible and upsetting way:
“I’m in shock. They were my entire world, and now that’s all shattered. Everything I attempt in life seems to fail, and this is just another disaster. I’ll never be happy again.”
Wow. That’s quite a strong reaction, isn’t it? I’m sure you, like me, have experienced situations where you or someone else reacted in this manner. Giving negative meaning to a situation you’re dealing with is entirely counterproductive.
Believing one is helpless
The belief in helplessness is evident in the final two sentences. The phrases to remember are “Everything always goes wrong, and you’ll never be happy again.” When you react like this, you’re essentially telling yourself that you’re powerless because nothing has ever gone well for you and that you’ll never find happiness, no matter what. By believing that you’re unable to influence anything, you truly feel defenseless.
How do you think the information you’ve studied will make you feel in this situation? Exactly. You’ll feel utterly miserable, burdened, frustrated, and powerless to change your life. But why should your experience be any different? What’s the point of acting to bring about change when everything ALWAYS goes wrong, and you’ll never again be happy?
Notice how helplessness operates? But it’s not real at all. There are many things in the world that are completely out of your control, of course. Mother Nature and other people are just two examples. There are aspects of life that you can control, such as where you live and where you work. It’s critical to keep those details about manipulation fresh in your mind.
The most crucial aspect of helplessness is this: You have complete control over how you respond to each situation and the meaning you give to it. In the scenario mentioned earlier, a better response might be:
“Okay, so my relationship hasn’t worked out, but other areas of my life are going well, so I’ll focus on those while I process this situation. Just because this relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean that future relationships won’t be successful. Once I’ve moved on from this, I’ll make myself available and find someone better.”
In the end
In essence, recognize the difference. By opting for a more fact-based, less sentimental interpretation, you are retaining control. You acknowledge your pain, but you understand that it’s temporary, and when you’re prepared, you’ll try again. You recognize that there are other areas of your life to focus on, and this reaction will prevent you from feeling helpless.
Take action now to address your feelings of hopelessness and depression. You’ll thank yourself later. Please share your thoughts in the space provided below. I would love to hear them.
I’ll see you soon.
Copyright 2006 Christopher Green
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Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.