Why Are People So Selfish?-The True Reason
So, I have to say that this is probably a very difficult topic to talk about. Don’t you think so? People are seen to be very selfish in life, so many people are probably curious as to why this is the case and what can be done about it. This may appear to be a difficult question. It should be obvious that it has to do with what is going on within rather than what is going on without. When you go out and try to find answers for your personal growth, you should always pay attention to yourself and not to the lives of others.
When people understand why they are so selfish, the results are unique and magnificent. However, if you cannot understand why you are selfish, it will be extremely difficult to change and live a loving life toward others. Finally, only you can determine why you are selfish and can change.
Scarcity Is At The Root Of Selfishness.
Scarcity, resentment, never giving back, and a lack of empathy are major determinants of whether someone is selfish or not. You have the option of continuing to live this way or taking action to change it. Just keep in mind that you are the only one who has the authority to make that decision. Nobody else can do it. Just keep in mind that if you don’t make any changes, you are more likely to be a very selfish person. Finally, if you can learn to be caring, loving, supportive, and open to change, you will have a much lower chance of being selfish.
Did you know that most selfish people are afraid that their needs will not be met if they care about others? It is correct. However, you must understand that just because you care about people and do things for them on occasion does not imply that you will be unable to care for yourself. Please keep in mind that to care for others, you must first care for yourself.
Let’s look at an example:
Have you ever been in a situation where you were asked to do something? You can either do it or not do it. That’s all there is to it. However, be aware that whatever you choose will reveal whether you are selfish. However, please keep in mind that putting yourself first does not imply that you are selfish. It simply implies that you have something going on. So, instead of saying “no,” when someone asks you to do something, say “of course, but let me do this one thing first.” This will indicate to the person that you are eager to assist but must first complete a task. Please, however, only say it if you have something to do.
The Various Types of Selfishness
Many selfish people all over the world can make us question our very existence. It is possible to tell if someone is self-centered, but it can be difficult at times. However, if we know they are selfish, why do we even want to be around them? It’s because these people are mysterious, and when there’s a mystery, there’s curiosity. Finally, when there is curiosity, there is hurtfulness, and that is something we should be wary of. Here are some various types of selfishness to be on the lookout for.
- Then I Called It Type of Selfish: The “I called it” person is usually the type who needs everything first or the best of everything. This person prefers to sit in the front seat of the car at all times. They also want to be at the top of everything. Please be cautious because they will go to any length to obtain what they desire.
- The I Have to Have it Type of Selfish: This kind of selfishness isn’t harmful. The desire I have to have it type always takes the last piece of everything. Whatever the case may be. This is due to a sense of fulfillment.
- The Demon: When it comes to selfishness, exercise caution. This type of selfishness has a strong desire to take everything you own. Whatever the case may be, whether it is clothing, money, relationships, or an ex-lover. They’ll find a way to take whatever you have. This is due to their ignorance, manipulation, and narcissism.
“The demon is truly only concerned with himself.”
4. The Insensitive: This level of selfishness is highly rated. This type of person will make any situation revolve around them. This is usually when you require someone the most. For example, when you are ill, have financial difficulties, and so on. If you try to talk to this person, they will say, “Oh well, you didn’t do such-and-such.” Finally, they make you feel bad for not doing something.
5. The Pore Me- This type of selfishness is extremely negative. Being in the presence of this type of person only makes you feel bad. They are always complaining about themselves and what is going on in their lives. If you try to talk to them, they will tell you that their problems are more important than yours and that yours are insignificant. Please be aware of this.
6. The Cocky Type: This personality type excels at being selfish. Talking to this person makes you want to avoid them. They’re always bragging about how great they are and how much everyone adores them. I believe that anyone who is cocky needs to have their brain rewired.
In the end, selfishness is selfishness, regardless of how you look at it. If you exhibit any of these traits, I would look into ways to change your behavior. No one wants to be around you if you are selfish. It’s just very negative energy that can spread to others.
Motives for Being a Selfish Individual
You may not remember times in your life when someone was selfish towards you, but you will remember how hurtful it made you feel. However, you may be wondering why so many people are self-centered while others are more compassionate and considerate. What drives some people to be uncaring toward others while others are extremely loving? So, with that in mind, let’s take a look at some reasons why someone might be selfish to others down below. When it comes to selfishness, some people may not realize they are selfish, and, as a result, they are acting selfishly.
- They Were Raised to Be: Have you ever met someone whose beliefs were completely out of whack? For example, being taught that only selfish people are successful, or that you must be selfish to achieve anything in life. This, however, is incorrect. Just because you care about people does not preclude you from being successful. It will make you a stronger person as a result of it.
- Fear of Resentment: People who are concerned about others may forget to look after themselves. That being said, some people are selfish because they are afraid that if they are not, their own needs will not be met. That is why it is critical to prioritize your own needs before assisting those around you. How can you take care of anyone else if you can’t take care of yourself?
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They Don’t Realize That They Are: In some cases, selfish people are unaware that they are selfish. They may believe they are not, which is the cause for concern. If others are telling you that you are wrong, you should listen to what they are saying. No, not everyone who calls you selfish is correct. They could be upset at times. So, if someone accuses you of being selfish, please consider the reasons why.
- They Have Low Self-esteem: When someone is selfish, it is most likely due to a lack of self-esteem. When someone has low self-esteem, it is usually because of something they have struggled with in their lives. This can lead to them being self-centered. This is because they need to feel important to someone. As a result, everything begins to revolve around them. When, in reality, they are only hurting themselves.
- Genetics: Some selfish people may have a gene that causes them to be that way. Someone in their family may be selfish, and while this cannot be proven, it is more likely if it is within the family. If you have selfish people in your family, you can decide to change that.
I understand that selfish behavior can occur unintentionally and that some people may be aware that they are engaging in it. However, they must open their eyes and begin to be aware. But what is the point of it all? It is because the selfish person may end up losing more than they have ever lost. Someone who is constantly selfish has a problem that needs to be addressed. This can make a person extremely unhappy. In general, that person requires more assistance than they realize.
The Recognition For Change
So, now that I’ve lectured you on being selfish. I’d like to now give you some key ideas on how to be less selfish and more caring of others. This will help you with love, compassion, and being true to yourself and others.
Key Idea #1: Look For Opportunities To Help Others
Look for ways to help others if you want to start being selfless. It is critical to assist them when they are truly in need, rather than just for your benefit. If you did this, you would be perceived as someone who only does things to get something out of them. So make certain that you’re doing it for the right reasons.
Key Idea #2: Learn To Communicate:
So, communication can take many forms. Listening and communication are the two forms I’m referring to. When you’re talking to someone, take the time to listen to what they’re saying instead of responding or interrupting. This demonstrates respect and love for the other person.
Key Idea #3: Learn To Share:
If you want to stop being selfish, you must learn to share. This is in terms of being respected. Everyone has achieved something in their lives. What matters is that you can accept this. Remember that other people, not just you, have the right to be the center of attention.
Key Idea #4: Self-Reflect:
It is necessary to reflect on who you are regularly. When you self-reflect, you can identify and change negative habits. When it comes to being selfish, self-reflection can help you if you don’t realize you’re doing it. This will assist you in controlling how you act and do things in the future.
Key Idea #5: Put Yourself Into Other People’s Shoes:
We appear to be selfish in life because we are oblivious to the fact that our actions have an impact on those around us. For example, purchasing items and reselling them for a profit. Yes, this can be a great way to supplement your income, but what about the surrounding people? It is critical to begin developing empathy for others. When you recognize that what you are doing is wrong, you can begin to change your behavior.
Learn not to be selfish in your interactions with others if at all possible. You will learn to love yourself and life much more as a result. If you take my advice, you will become the best version of yourself.
In The End
You can either continue to be selfish or find a way to change that. If you continue to be selfish, the world will see that you have no respect or love for other people. It also holds in the opposite direction. To stop being selfish, you must first recognize that you are doing it and then find a way to change your behavior. The only person who can decide to be no longer selfish is yourself.
If you have any questions about how to proceed, please let me know; I have a lot of experience with this and would be happy to assist you.
Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
10 Responses
A very interesting read that brings a lot of feelings upon me. As a retired person I frequently meet other guys of older age. What struck me most in the last three years, is how selfish they generally are. Two or three of them I have identified as narcissists and three more as self-centered. You can never relate to them as they always talk about themselves.
There was one who became a little bit closer before I knew, but after his divorce, it became very quickly clear that he would never be a real friend. Oh, he can be very friendly and humorous, but he does not know what friendship is. Of course, he was very surprised when I took my distance from him and he said he did not know what he did wrong.
I commend you for trying to solve people’s issues, but what if, as in this case, they do not even see they can be wrong? I tell you what: do not waste too much time on such a person. He is now in the company of like-minded people. I doubt whether he will ever turn around.
This is my reality and I certainly do not want to discourage you. More like preparing you for what could happen. Undoubtedly, there will be people who, with a little bit of help, can become less selfish. Maybe you can better speak to them when they come to you with their problems.
Thanks so much for reading. Selfish people are always around us, it’s sad, but it’s true. Sadly those who are selfish are also narcissistic as well. I agree you can’t relate to them that’s why it’s best to just ignore them and live your own life.
It’s during those tough times when you discover who your real friends are. Sadly most of the time they really are not your friends in the first place.
I just love trying to help people and knowing that they do matter. If that can’t see that what they are doing is wrong that is their issue not yours, and they should want to change all on their own. In the end you right don’t waste time on those who do not care and simply won’t do anything to care.
Thanks for trying to help however I get it I really do. That is why I write articles like this to try and help people out there because I do care.
Here is a great read called Your Life Isn’t for You: A Selfish Person’s Guide to Being Selfless
Being selfish is one of the worst virtues that human can possess, always find yourself isolated and no one willing to associate with you, the decision make dictates the future there is nothing as good as realizing your mistakes and embrace change as this selfish behavior my turn to haunt all your life, we all need a loving life but if choose otherwise you will encounter obstacles even during your love life, no one is perfect but change is inevitable.
I believe that being selfish can be a good thing, but everything has its limits. However, I do agree that being selfish makes no one want to be around you and that it also makes you have a very negative energy. With that said thanks for reading and have a great day.
Selfishness is a very interesting topic, thank you for sharing this post. All relationships should be balanced, give and take. We should not be in relationships where one persons gives and the other only receives. Selfish people sometimes make excuses by saying they have nothing to give. life is not only about material things, sometime we need someone to be quiet and just listening.
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People are seen to be very selfish in life, so many people are probably curious as to why this is the case and what can be done about it. Scarcity, resentment, never giving back, and a lack of empathy are major determinants of whether someone is selfish or not. Only you can determine why you are selfish and have the ability to change. If you can learn to be caring, loving, supportive, and open to change, you will have a much lower chance of being selfish.
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Very interesting topic you’ve got here! Being selfish can hurt a lot of people in anyone’s life, but we also need to take care of our mental health, and if taking care of ourselves means that we have to be selfish (ex. taking time for ourselves, prioritizing our needs, setting boundaries, etc) then I do think that it is okay to be selfish. Kindness is everything, but never be too kind you forget your power, nor never wield such power that you forget to be kind.
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