Independence In Women-The Myths There Mind-Blowing
In life, women are perceived to be the caregivers to those around them. Children, the elderly, the sick, and sometimes their spouses are examples. When a strong-willed and independent woman appears, that stereotype is thrown out the window. In today’s world, more women are demonstrating greater strength and independence than ever before. This is due to the need to do things for oneself rather than relying on a man. Being an independent woman is seen to make one stronger, successful, and happy in life. In this article, I am going to go about the myths and how independent women are seen.
Myths About Strong and Independent Women
When discussing the concept of a resilient and self-reliant woman, it’s crucial to tackle several misunderstandings. Some individuals wrongly assume that independence in women equates to selfishness, excessively high expectations, rejection of partnership, arrogance, being domineering, overly focused on work, lacking emotions, displaying a pessimistic outlook, being authoritative, and more. Yet, none of these misconceptions hold any validity. In the following explanation, I will debunk these myths and illustrate just how inaccurate they are.
- Independent Women are selfish- Selfishness is a perception attributed to numerous individuals globally. Regrettably, there exists a common misconception that when a woman dedicates herself to diligent effort, goal setting, and self-prioritization, she is automatically labeled as selfish. Nonetheless, it’s essential to recognize that tending to one’s well-being is a prerequisite for tending to others. When a woman achieves self-reliance, she not only accomplishes tasks effectively but also cultivates her own happiness.
- Standards Are Too High- An independent woman comprehends her aspirations and rightful desires in this lifetime, which is entirely reasonable. It is important to note, however, that there exists a clear difference between possessing criteria and displaying arrogance. When a woman embodies the same attributes she looks for in others, she is exemplifying standards.
“Setting standards informs you of what you’re worthy of in this existence.”
- They Don’t Need A Man- Similar to all other women, they too desire to experience love. Nevertheless, independent women possess a precise understanding of their preferences in a partner and refuse to compromise for anything subpar. Consequently, they don’t invest their time in individuals who aren’t worthy of their attention. These women are adept at managing their time and won’t squander it on men who don’t merit it. Ultimately, when they do come across a suitable partner, it’s someone they’re willing to fight for and a relationship that’s built to withstand the test of time.
- They Are Conceited- When it comes to being conceited, it is the process of believing that you are superior to others. However, this is completely false. A woman’s understanding of what she wants, what she deserves, and how important she is does not imply that she believes she is superior to others. A strong and independent woman is self-aware of who she is. Regrettably, a limited number of individuals grasp the extent of their own incredible and exquisite nature. They hold the notion that external approval must precede their self-acceptance. A self-reliant woman holds a deep affection for herself and remains unaffected by external opinions. When genuine self-love is achieved, it radiates a positive and affectionate aura.
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They Are Controlling or Bossy–As women, we possess a yearning to relish life’s experiences and to have a sense of direction. This inclination only becomes restrictive when it transforms into attempts to dictate and govern the lives of others.
“Being strong and self-sufficient does not imply being bossy.”
- Only Care About Work- When a woman puts in dedicated effort and attains substantial achievements, she might be branded as a workaholic. Nonetheless, women are naturally adept at multitasking. Their diverse skills empower them to manage several tasks simultaneously, enabling them to accomplish a considerable volume of work and attain success. This reality does highlight the necessity for women to exert extra effort compared to men. This is owing to the greater challenges women face in ascending to prominent positions. Undeniably, a double standard is at play in this scenario.
Emotionless- Let’s clarify this point. Merely because a woman is candid and forthright with others doesn’t indicate a lack of emotions. Such a woman is actually endeavoring to support those she holds dear. Admittedly, her words might seem harsh, but this is not her intention. Likewise, a woman’s perpetual smile doesn’t necessarily reflect her kindness. Anyone can feign emotions by mimicking actions and expressions. In actuality, one can discern when a woman is being critical versus when she’s striving to assist. Her motivations stem from genuine goodwill.
- Don’t Need Anyone- Even the most self-reliant individuals find themselves in need of support from time to time. However, embodying independence as a woman often means handling tasks alone, unless seeking advice or aid becomes necessary. When someone with a strong sense of self-sufficiency does seek assistance, it’s usually because they’re facing a challenge and are unsure of alternatives. For such individuals, reaching out for help is a significant step, as it requires considerable effort. Therefore, when they do come to you, it’s because they trust your reliability and know they can count on you.
“Even strong women require someone.”
- They Do it Alone- Certain individuals might contend that independent women lack a robust support system or a wide social circle. However, this assertion is entirely unfounded. A self-reliant woman indeed has friends, albeit a select few who hold her trust and share a close bond. She doesn’t require a multitude of friends to recognize her inherent value and significance in the world. The companions she surrounds herself with carry immense importance, mirroring her own values and perspectives. When these women forge friendships, they do so with meticulous consideration. They have little patience for insincere or conceited individuals within their sphere. Their perspective centers on authenticity—both to oneself and to those in their proximity.
Misunderstandings encountered in life contribute to enhanced resilience and expertise in a specific field. Formulating typically inaccurate judgments regarding a particular subject encapsulates this concept. Instead of relying on hearsay, it’s imperative to engage in research and effort to unearth accurate information.
There’s absolutely no issue with a self-reliant woman. Possessing determination merely indicates that you are at ease with your identity, aware of your desires and entitlements in this existence. Therefore, step forward and advocate for your aspirations, regardless of others’ opinions or judgments.
Feel free to drop any queries you may have regarding the misunderstandings surrounding independent women in the comment section. Drawing from my extensive experience in this realm, I’m here to provide you with valuable assistance and insights.
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Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
10 Responses
Well done on a really insightful article. I myself work in a male dominated environment and my colleagues talk about me behind my back.
My boss told me that some of my colleagues find me bossy and ‘hard faced’, I say I am a strong confident person who knows what they want in life and won’t easily settle for anything less. That includes work and romance. I guess I am controlling but only of things that effect my life directly. I have no interest in controlling other people.
Also I totally agree with your comments about friends. At school I had loads, but honestly how many were really friends, these days I take great care in who I trust, and without trust there is no friendship.
I know where I want to be in 10 years and I have the confidence to go for it.
Thanks! People who gossip, I’ve discovered, are simply insecure about themselves and envious of what they don’t have.
That’s ridiculous. However, I believe that being bossy makes you stronger, so go girl! I’m glad you have a clear vision of what you want. Most people, I’ve discovered, don’t know what they want, so they take it out on others or get the exact opposite.
Friendship is a two-way street that must be reciprocated. If a person is not open and honest with their friends, they are not truly friends.
I believe you and anyone else who truly desires something can obtain it; all they have to do is take action.
Hi! There is a double standard in the world we live in. However, I feel that women have been treated unfairly in many environments. And there are some that push and excel beyond men around her. That is ok. The problem is with the stereotypes.
We should take a look at the stereotypes that even we embrace because they may not be reasonable.
Hi! The double standard is completely incorrect. We are all unique and capable of doing things in our own way, and everyone has the right to do so. Stereotypes have never appealed to me because they are inherently harmful and serve no purpose. Thank you for your time.
Hi Kiersti,
My name is Jordan, and I wanted to say that I loved your article about the misconceptions of independent women. I myself am married to an amazing woman named Jessie, and she is very independent, strong-willed, a real go getter!
I love this quality about my wife, I’ve never been threatened by this with her personality whatsoever, but I do know that some men are threatened by that.
My question to you is this…
1. It’s roughly related to the topic at hand, but also a little different. What is it that an independent woman wants in their man?
2. I have a younger sister who is 19. She is currently walking this path growing from a high school kid, to an independent woman. I’m obviously not a woman, nor do I think I completely understand all the challenges women face in our world today. Is there a way I can help my sister to become that ‘Independent woman’?
1. As an independent woman myself, I would say that love, hardworking, kindness, compassionate, and more are something women want in a man.
2. When it comes to trying to help one be independent, I think the best way is by just being there for her and letting her know she can do anything it puts her mind to.
As an independent woman, I am often seen as selfish, “angry” and bossy. So I’m glad you wrote this article busting up these myths about independent women. I think it’s ridiculous that one of the myths is that I wouldn’t need a man simply because I earn a high salary. Or that I like being alone. I don’t. Being independent doesn’t negate my sensitivity as a woman. Thanks for the enlightening article.
You’re so welcome. I thought it was vital to discuss. In today’s society, individuals think any lady who is independent doesn’t need any person or thing, which is so bogus. We as lady require everything regardless. A debt of gratitude is in order for perusing and recall continue to be you.
I think that sometimes it takes a long time for culture and society to truly make a turnaround.
As you said in your opening lines, traditionally women were seen as the caregivers of the family and those around them. When a centuries-old stereotype and gender role gets rattled, people get upset. It takes a while for them to let go of the past.
Just because a woman is strong and independent doesn’t mean that she can’t also be a loving caregiver. The same is true of men. Men can be strong and independent and also loving caregivers. Are men not husbands, grandfathers, fathers, friends, etc.
This is a good topic to address today because it can be very frustrating when a strong woman is labeled something negative just because of her independence. Independence and strength are good things.
Thanks for bringing awareness to this issue.
I thought it was vital to talk about, so I did. We as women are more than just the caregivers. We are human beings who deserve everything in this world. Anyone in this world can be a caregiver, it’s just knowing how to be one. I, in the end, I think people need to open their eyes and see the truth. Thanks for reading.