Finding Out How To Love Oneself
Many women all over the world struggle with not only loving who they are but also accepting everything about themselves that makes them unique and stunning. This is because as women, we have high expectations, sometimes receive unwanted attention, are under constant pressure, and have unrealistic fears. All of this prevents us from reaching our full potential and even living a life we genuinely enjoy. As a woman, I believe it is about time to put an end to the nonsense of not loving ourselves fully. In this article, I will discuss not only what it means to love yourself, but also finding out how to love oneself. All flaws and all.
The Real Meaning of Self-Love
Have you ever asked yourself, “Do I truly love and accept who I am as a woman?” Few of us take the time to reflect on ourselves or look deep within our souls. This is because it can make us feel weak or vulnerable. This, however, is not the case. When you truly love yourself, you prioritize yourself and do whatever makes you happy.
I’m sure you didn’t realize that self-love entails giving yourself the love and attention it deserves. Putting one’s own needs ahead of everyone else’s. Women must understand that self-love contributes to confidence. Enough confidence is the foundation for pursuing your desires and becoming the person you were born to be. Some may argue that having enough self-love is selfish, but this is not the case. It makes you a better person as a result of it.
Finally, it is critical to understand that when a person truly loves who they are, they recognize their worth. When you know your worth, you know what you deserve in this life, and you begin to appreciate all the little things you have to offer.
Related: How does Self-Confidence Work?- A Full Breakdown
Self-Love vs. Self-Awareness
When you think of self-love, you might think of self-awareness, but the two are not the same thing. Self-love entails paying attention to oneself, whereas self-awareness entails being aware of one’s characteristics. So the question is, which is more important? Both, in my opinion, are critical; without one, we cannot have the other. However, self-awareness entails knowing what one needs to work on and taking the necessary steps to accomplish such a goal.
Related: The True Meaning of Self-Awareness
The Truth About Self-Love
There are some fascinating truths about self-love out there. I believe women must understand these facts before taking the necessary steps to become more self-loving.
You Are and Will Always Be Enough: It may be difficult to believe, but no matter what anyone else says or thinks, you are good enough, so stop listening to them. All that matters is how you perceive yourself. So many women believe they must prove themselves to be loved. This is utter nonsense. As a woman, you were created to be beautiful the way you are, and anyone who says otherwise should be thrown out.
Loving Too Much: You may be wondering if you can love yourself too much. Yes, you can, in a nutshell. When someone loves themselves excessively, they are acting excessively. There are people out there who are completely obsessed with who they are and have unrealistic expectations of themselves. People like this are referred to as narcissistic. Narcissistic people are extremely toxic. As a result, it is critical to exercise caution around them. It is also necessary to be wary of how much you love yourself. This can make it difficult to form genuine relationships with others.
Comparison is toxic: We’ve all had moments when we compared ourselves to other women. This is common when we see someone who is more attractive, successful, or possesses something we desire. This, however, is toxic and interferes with your ability to accept yourself for who you are.
If you want to learn more about how to stop comparing yourself to others, check out my Stop Comparing Yourself To Others article.
Focus On Your Good Qualities: Everything falls into place when you take the time to focus on who you are and what you have to offer. This is because you focus more on your strengths and what makes you unique than on your flaws and imperfections. Focusing on your positive qualities makes you happier and more confident in your life.
Thoughts Are Just Thoughts: We all have negative thoughts from time to time; it’s an unavoidable part of life. However, just because you have thoughts does not mean that what you are thinking is correct. When you remember this, your perspective on things will begin to shift.
Treat Yourself Like How You Treat Others: So, exactly what do I mean by this? It’s exactly what it sounds like. It is critical to treat yourself with the same love and compassion that you do others. This demonstrates to others that you can be loving and kind not only to others but also to yourself.
You Are Who You Are, Not Who Others Perceive You To Be: There have most likely been times when you have been called derogatory names. But nothing they say or believe is true. Yes, everyone has the right to express their thoughts on you. It’s important to remember that everyone has different ideas about whom they believe you are. However, the majority of the time, their opinions are incorrect. So, instead of asking how others perceive you, ask yourself how you perceive yourself. When you begin to love yourself, you stop caring what other people think of you and begin to live your life.
My article about not caring what others think of you is a great read. Check it out: Stop Caring What People Think
You Have To Love Yourself First: Many of you are probably guilty of putting other people’s needs ahead of your own. This is not a proper way to live. As a woman, you must understand that if you do not take care of your own needs first, you will be unable to help others. This is because when you put yourself first, you will be happier and healthier.
Are you ready, as a woman, to embark on a journey of self-love and self-discovery? It will, I guarantee, change your life.
The Self-Love Strategy
We, as women, are always looking for ways to improve our lives and be more self-loving to ourselves. I’d like to take this opportunity to suggest a few things you, as a woman, can do to love yourself even more. I guarantee that if you implement these simple strategies, you will begin to see yourself in a new light. What it comes to self-love action is key, without action you have nothing.
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Get More Sleep: The majority of our time is spent sleeping. So take some time to unwind and nap. It is critical to turn off all electronics in the bedroom and simply relax. For myself, I find that using a sleep tracker, as well as sleep buds, is the most beneficial. Both are available from Amazon.
Move More: Moving allows us to expend all of our energy, and we feel a lot better. We tend to suffer from anxiety and other emotional issues when we spend our days sitting around watching television or using electronics. Yes, I understand that not everyone enjoys working out, but even going for a short walk can boost one’s self-esteem. Exercise comes in a variety of forms. This can include going for a short walk, going to the gym, doing yard work, or simply dancing around the house.
Drink More Water: Did you know that staying hydrated is essential? You must consume half of your body weight in water every day. For example, if you weigh 140 pounds, your body requires at least 70 ounces per day to function. This makes you feel full, lose weight, have beautiful skin, and improve your mood and willpower. If you dislike drinking water or the taste of it, I recommend the AquaFrut 32 oz Fruit Infuser Water Bottle, which is available on Amazon.
Eat Healthier: When you eat a healthy diet, your body begins to thank you. Good nutrition is your fuel, and it will make your body better and stronger. Instead of grabbing a donut, reach for a bowl of grapes or an apple. If you eat a lot of crap, you’ll start to feel like crap. It’s fine to have a donut now and then, but doing so regularly causes more health problems. Likes diabetes, breathing difficulties, heart disease, and ex. When you eat clean, you are less likely to have major health issues.
Take Yourself Out: We all have one or two hobbies that we enjoy but rarely devote time to. I recommend that you go out and do something you enjoy at least once or twice a month. Whether it’s going to the salon or seeing a movie. When you have time to yourself, you learn to love yourself.
In the end, loving yourself should be your top priority in life.
Now it’s your turn to go out and find a way to show how much you love yourself.
Thank you for reading. If you have any questions or want to share your experiences with self-love, please leave them in the comments section below.
Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
10 Responses
Hi, Kiersti- this is another beautiful article and the perfect one to read after coming across your helpful article on self-awareness. Your writing made the distinction between self-love and self-awareness very clear, and I am such a believer of the importance of fostering self-love. Thank you for providing your perspective on this topic!
Your so welcome. It is very interesting that the two words are very different but yet so similar in many ways. With that being said if you enjoyed this article I would go ahead and checkout my article “What Is the Meaning Of Kindness.” I bet you would love it.
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Thank you very much for your post. I would define self-esteem as the set of emotions and cognitive predispositions associated with an individual’s self-evaluation.
That is to say, it is how we make evaluations of ourselves, including here the emotional load of appraisals of the self-concept (the concept I have of myself).
The most effective way to deal with this concept is to be balanced. We could go either way in our self-evaluation.
You’re welcome. Thanks for reading and have a great day.
This is a common problem that I’ve seen with a lot of my female friends. It can be really difficult as women to prioritize our own needs, as we are conditioned to be care-takers for everyone else first. I like the way you’ve given many ways that we can find self-love. Finding self-acceptance of who we are at the core is more important than we realize. This article is helpful in so many ways. Thanks for sharing!
I couldn’t agree more. Thanks for checking out and for your comment.
Great article highlighting the importance of self-love. I love how you pointed out your self-love strategy. I think this also applies to men, not only women. We need more self-love in this world. This article reminds me to get more quality sleep and stay healthy during this pandemic situation of Covid-19. Thank you, Kiersti!
Thank you very much! Yes, I believe that self-love is essential for everyone. I just believe that some people may require it more than others, but that everyone does. Thank you for reading, and if you liked this essay, you might be interested in “The True Meaning of Self Awareness.”