3 Powerful Tips For Surviving Criticism – The Positive and Negative
Are you determined to change your ways of life? Congratulations! But don’t be surprised if people start giving you advice and opinions on what you should and shouldn’t do. With that here are 3 powerful tips for surviving criticism.
3 Powerful Tips for Surviving Criticism
The following pointers will assist you in navigating your way through the plethora of criticisms you’re bound to face on your way to developing a lifestyle you love.
1. Criticism is typically given through the giver’s eyes.
Have you ever noticed how some people state their opinions or make comments as if they have all the answers?
To deal with any kind of criticism, especially uninvited and unkind, one of the most empowering things you can do is to ask the question:
Is the material presented totally accurate, or does it reflect the author’s own opinion?
Criticism based primarily on facts is unarguable. There is no wiggle room if you have blond hair and someone states that you have blond hair. The truth is that you do have blond hair, and anyone can tell by looking at you that you do.
If, on the other hand, someone says you have lovely hair, the door is wide open for interpretation. Some may agree that you have lovely hair. However, some people dislike blonds, or blonds remind them of their ex, so they disagree and may no longer find your blond hair attractive.
Most people speak as if their opinions are facts when in reality they are just that: opinions.
As you concentrate on your remarks, remember to clarify the criticism with one question:
Is this a personal view or a statement based on facts?
Related: Stop Caring What People Think
2. You get to choose how you want to get your hands on it.
There’s a tip I picked up a long time ago that has shown to be really useful. When someone gives me their remarks, I’ve learned that I don’t have to accept them straight away. Instead, I thank them and tell them I’ll think about what they said.
As a result, you will gain time.
You do not have to respond to comments right away. You can take your time and slowly and carefully approach the remarks.
Let’s face it: precise remarks are easier to swallow than horrific ones. If you are confronted with harsh comments, DO NOT REACT TO THEM IMMEDIATELY. Allow yourself time to process the comments after you’ve had a chance to relax and become more objective.
Giving yourself time will put you in a position to respond to comments from a position of power and concern for yourself.
3. In most cases, you have the final say.
Okay, so you were given some criticism and allowed yourself some time to process it. What now?
As a person, you have the option of accepting it or rejecting it.
You should never, ever trust or accept the comments that are made to you!
However, there may be times when it is prudent to do so. If someone gives you advice based on their years of experience, you should probably take it. On the other hand, if someone makes a comment but can’t back it up with supporting evidence, you’re dealing with fluff rather than solid advice.
Related: Why the Truth will Set you Free- It’s Emotional
At long last,
If you’re still unsure whether to accept the criticism, ask the giver to explain why they have the opinion they do. You may need to concentrate if their opinion is primarily based on a hit beyond history dealing with a similar scenario. If it isn’t, you should toss it out the window.
Also, remember that no one can make better judgments for you than you! As a result, pay attention to what others have to say, but just keep what works for you and discard the rest. Trust your knowing inner self to guide you in the proper direction, and you’ll make the best option for you in the end.
Now go out into the world and face the wrath of the critics. You’ll be glad you did it later.
Please ask any questions you have about facing criticism. I’d be thrilled to hear from you. Please let me know by leaving a comment below.
Copyright 2006 Cari Vollmer
Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
