How To Help Someone With Mental Health Issues?
We will all experience some sort of mental health issue at some point in our lives. When we do go through them, however, we want to help and want to help others. However, we are sometimes unaware of who is in need. When someone in our lives is going through a difficult time, we want to do everything in our power to ensure that person is happy and healthy. This could encompass a friend, family member, colleague, or even someone you’ve met online. Regardless of the circumstances, our innate inclination is to lend a hand to those who require assistance. In this article, I will delve into mental health challenges and explore ways to assist individuals facing them.
Is There Any Way to Tell if Someone Has a Mental Health Issue?
Everyone encounters daily challenges in their lives, and it’s a fact that some individuals seem to be grappling with more significant difficulties than others. Life operates in such a way. Consequently, while it may occasionally be evident who is facing hardships, most often it remains concealed. Those we care about deeply are often the ones who are enduring the most profound struggles in their daily lives. This is a reality, and at times, these are the individuals who require the greatest support. However, it’s crucial to maintain an awareness of and curiosity about the people within our circles. Therefore, if you find yourself uncertain about someone’s situation, it’s best not to attempt to diagnose them. Such actions could potentially exacerbate their challenges.
Keep in mind that identifying a mental health concern isn’t always straightforward when evaluating someone. The manifestations of individuals facing such challenges can differ significantly from one person to another. Just because someone you are acquainted with exhibits a symptom, it doesn’t automatically indicate they have a mental disorder. Therefore, exercise caution and sensitivity in your actions.
In every individual with a particular condition, one or more symptoms may manifest. However, how people in the vicinity of someone experiencing these symptoms react can differ greatly. There is no uniform response when it comes to how people respond to illness or symptoms; it varies from person to person. However, if you are close to someone, it is easier to tell if they are in pain. For example, if there is a change in mood or a decrease in desire.
If you’re interested in exploring a range of mental health conditions that can arise, I’ve provided a link to an article that discusses various health-related subjects.
What Might I Do for Someone Who’s Suffering?
There are several ways to provide assistance to those you hold dear in terms of mental well-being, but the most essential element is having a conversation. If you’re unable to discuss your own struggles, how can you effectively aid someone else with theirs?
At times, we become concerned about those in our proximity, especially when we notice a shift in their behavior. In such situations, it’s advisable to initiate a conversation with the individual you’re worried about. I understand that beginning this dialogue can be daunting, but the most crucial moment to provide assistance is now. Waiting can lead to a deterioration in the situation. Therefore, take the initiative to speak with them and inquire if they require any support. However, when you start talking to them, show compassion and love. Never criticize or judge them. That will aggravate the situation, and that person will most likely lose faith in you.
Prioritize open communication with the individual you aim to assist before taking any other action. This approach will enable you to gain a deeper understanding of their situation and subsequently determine the best way to provide support. However, it’s essential to recognize that there are instances when some individuals may not be willing to engage in conversation or accept your assistance. In such situations, consider speaking with someone close to them or allowing them some space to regain their composure. It’s crucial never to pressure someone into discussing their circumstances if they’re not ready.
How to Have a Conversation About Mental Health?
I’ve discussed ways to assist someone in the present, but how do we initiate a discussion about mental health, especially considering that many people view this topic as delicate? I’ve offered some guidance on broaching this subject, emphasizing the need for thoughtful and cautious communication.
1. Make Sure It’s A Distraction-Free Zone: When engaging in a conversation with someone, please reduce disruptions, such as your phone, television, music, or the presence of other individuals. This way, you can ensure that the person you’re talking to receives your undivided attention.
2. Let Them Lead The Discussion: Allow the other person to initiate the conversation when you’re in dialogue with them. Granting them the freedom to speak at their own pace and about topics that interest them fosters trust. Avoid attempting to impose your own agenda on them, as this may convey the impression of pressure rather than genuine assistance. Therefore, it’s crucial to proceed with care and sensitivity.
3. Never Judge or Criticize: Avoid passing judgments or providing criticism when someone is confiding in you about something significant. Such actions can erode trust and potentially worsen their emotional state if they perceive that you’re simply criticizing or condemning them based on their words.
4. Never Diagnose: When engaging in a light-hearted conversation with someone, remember that you’re not an expert, and attempting to diagnose or provide solutions may not be helpful. It’s best to refrain from doing so unless the person explicitly seeks your opinion. They came to you for a particular reason, so all you need to do is offer your presence and support.
5. Ask Questions: When you ask questions, it demonstrates your concern. However, it’s important to ask questions carefully. Instead of asking why or how someone did something, you can inquire about how they felt in particular situations. Avoid overwhelming people with a barrage of questions all at once, and allow them ample time to respond.
6. Listen Carefully and Only Speak When Needed: Have you ever been in a conversation with someone, and they began to interfere or seemed disinterested? How did that make you feel? It likely made you feel quite unpleasant. Therefore, it’s important to be attentive when you’re conversing with someone and to speak only when necessary. If someone says something during the conversation that you find unclear, politely request clarification by rephrasing your question. You don’t always have to agree with their viewpoint, but showing respect by actively listening is a positive first step.
7. Have Standards: When someone reaches out for your assistance, it signifies a serious matter. Hence, if they begin behaving strangely or utter things that leave you feeling uneasy during your conversation with them, it’s important to take action and report it. Reporting ensures their safety and well-being are prioritized.
Now that you’ve learned how to offer assistance, what’s next? Remember that helping someone is a process that takes time, and not everyone may desire your help. In such cases, it’s crucial to respect their wishes and give them space. If they choose to open up to you, it will likely be a challenging and courageous step for them.
How to Assist Someone Who Is in Trouble?
Some of you might not be aware, but individuals dealing with mental illnesses can be vulnerable at times, including experiencing thoughts of suicide as their only option. It’s important to understand that they need help and that their mental state is significantly compromised during such moments. When faced with this situation, you may feel unsure of what steps to take or even perceive a potential threat. Here are some guidelines on how to support someone you suspect is in distress.
- Listen to them without judging or criticizing them.
- Ask if they need anything.
- Be respectful and show compassion.
- Don’t confront.
- Report if you believe they’re in danger.
- Ask if they require you to contact someone.
When an individual is going through a difficult time, their thoughts and perceptions often diverge significantly from those of people around them. This divergence can lead to the experience of unfamiliar and challenging emotions. In such moments, it’s essential to offer them reassurance about their unique and wonderful qualities. Be a supportive presence and acknowledge their emotions.
Suicide is a Serious Matter.
Assume you’re talking to someone about suicide or seeing something about it on social media. This is the point at which you should encourage them to seek help. Either by consulting a therapist or contacting the police. If they refuse, I recommend that you contact them. All I can say is that they must seek assistance as soon as possible.
If you suspect someone is in a precarious situation, do your best to provide assistance in any way possible. Attempt to establish contact with them and convey your genuine concern. In my experience, some individuals merely seek someone to converse with, devoid of any judgment. This act of listening can make a substantial difference. Admittedly, it can be challenging, particularly when you are facing your own set of challenges.
It’s crucial to take all necessary steps to assist someone if you suspect they are in a perilous situation. Consider initiating a conversation with them and demonstrating your care by extending a helping hand. Based on my experience, I’ve found that some individuals simply seek a non-judgmental person to confide in, and this can make a substantial positive impact. It can indeed be challenging, especially if you are also facing difficulties of your own.
If you know anyone who feels isolated and doesn’t know where to turn. I recommend that you sign up for and use the 7 Cups of Tea app. They are here to assist anyone who is struggling or in need of support.
In The End.
Ultimately, we all have people in our lives whom we deeply care about and would go to great lengths to help. Therefore, if you notice someone you care about is facing difficulties, it’s advisable to offer your assistance. However, it’s crucial to approach them with kindness, empathy, and a non-judgmental attitude when engaging in conversations. This will convey to them that they can rely on you in any situation. Nevertheless, if someone opts not to engage in conversation with you for any reason, it’s essential to respect their choice.
When conversing with someone and if you have any suspicion that they may be contemplating suicide, it’s essential to take every necessary measure to ensure their safety, which may include contacting the police. They have resources and expertise that can surpass your own in such situations. Safeguarding individuals with mental health challenges should be your utmost priority.
Feel free to use the comments section below to inquire about any concerns or questions you might have regarding aiding someone dealing with mental health issues. I am more than happy to provide assistance, drawing from my extensive experience in this field.
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Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
20 Responses
I really appreciate how in depth this article goes. Mental health is a very serious issue that is becoming more and more common in our society, especially since covid. The advise you had about not forcing the conversation and building trust before pushing them to talk about what is going on. Letting people in crisis lead the conversation is a great way to give them an accepting and safe environment. Great tips for those who want to help. Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you for taking the time to read it. I agree that many people struggle with mental health issues, even if they are unaware of it. The problem is that forcing the dialogue accomplishes nothing and, in fact, makes matters worse rather than better. Thank you one more. With that, I recommend that you read some of my other articles. They will assist you and those you know.
This is a very well written article. I know many people that including myself that struggle with mental health and I know it is a touchy subject. I try to let them talk if they want to about it not forcing the conversation. I only talk when I feel it is necessary. It is hard for me to watch them be so unhappy and suffering. I want to help, but sometimes they don’t want my help or to talk and I will respect that.
I know that sometimes I would like to talk to someone and I know it is hards. I don’t want to be judged or told “just be happy” or “stop thinking like that”. Those words don’t help and it makes you feel that someone isn’t listening or taking you seriously. I find that my head is my worst enemy at times, sometimes if I write down what is bothering me it will lead me alone for awhile. That is if I can’t talk to someone about it in a safe place.
Thank you!
Thank you really a lot. I really understand because I’ve been dealing with mental health issues for about 18 years. And it’s really just a sensitive subject. When I learn that someone committed suicide due to mental illness, it crushes my heart. That being said, whenever I see someone on social media complaining about their life, I always reach out. We have no idea what anyone else is going through. Yes, forcing the topic only makes things worse rather than better. People sometimes just want to be left alone and not spoken to since it serves no one.I agree that seeing someone miserable is really upsetting and crushes my heart. I’m delighted you share my sentiments.
Finally, it is critical to wait until they want to speak because forcing it can and will exacerbate the situation.
When it comes to mental health, I find it difficult to talk about. All because of other people’s retweets, which only makes matters worse. All the things individuals can say are perceived to be cruel. It’s not quite that straightforward. Anyway, thanks for the comment, and you’ve just given me an excellent topic for an article. Have a lovely day and get well soon, okay?
It is very soothing and consoling when we have a shoulder to cry on and an empathetic listener when are going through challenges adversely affecting our mental health. This article is educative and it is good to know that this type of awareness is made available so that everyone will look out for each other. Whether family member, neighbor, or colleague.
I couldn’t agree more.
What a great article…and it’s especially important in this day and age. I know so many friends who are struggling with real problems these days. It’s so great how you emphasized the need to listen first and be non-judgmental. That is so important as talking too much or judging someone who is in need can backfire in the worst way. I’ve seen this happen many times before. And then communication just stops. I think mental illness is a touchy subject that most people are afraid to speak about. But it is way more common place that we’d like to think. Thanks for sharing these helpful ideas on how to help someone in need. As you say, sometimes all a person really needs is someone to listen to them.
It’s so sad how many people are dealing with mental issues and so much more. It just causes many more issues when people don’t take awareness on it. With that said thanks for reading.
Mental health issues seem to be on the increase, and specially during the past two years with so many people being forced not to have social interaction and see family members and friends. Society still seems to ignore the importance of providing adequate help and support, so it has become essential that we help those around us.
Thank you for highlighting the importance of mental health and giving us so many ways to recognise someone that needs help, and how to deal with it.
It’s so sad how many are dealing with mental health issues. Many because of COVID have it and it’s heartbreaking. It’s about time one says something about it. Not many people want to talk about the issue due to scarcity.
Thanks so much for commenting.
This is a very powerful yet sensitive topic or post to speak upon yet you found a way to address mental health and how to help in a very clean and simplistic way. Just follow steps one through seven to give assistance to someone who needs the help and willing to have a conversation about it as well. It can not be a one-way conversation, you speaking to them about what he/she needs but a two-way flow of understanding and acceptance. Help for a loved one or friend is always available, it is up to the individual to know that they need help and be willing to take the necessary steps to be successful at mental clarity.
I couldn’t agree more. In today society people have trouble talking about this because of scarcity and that of offending people. For someone who has dealt with such issues I find that it’s vital to talk about. And since I do know much about it I’m able to speak. So thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
Kiersti,
First off, thank you so much for this article!!
My daughter is having some issues, I have been trying to get her to seek professional help, yet she wants to rely on self-diagnosing, which we all know is a big NO-NO.
I have used passive-aggressive tactics with her like sending her a link to a mental health website for a local office after she had a manic episode and expressed she needed help. She ignored the link and went to Google instead, I am so frustrated, do you have any advice?
Stacie,
You’re so welcome.
Yes that isn’t something that one should be doing .
As for advice simply being there and spending time with your daughter will truly help her. Young kids need to know that they matter and when they have that care and love it can make the biggest difference.
Thank you so much for sharing this.
Mental health is an important issue that affects many people.
If you’re looking to support someone with mental health issues, here are a few things you can do: listen actively and nonjudgmentally, encourage seeking professional help, offer practical support, and take care of your own mental health.
Being a supportive and understanding presence can make a big difference for someone struggling with mental health issues.
Remember to listen, encourage seeking help, offer practical support, and take care of your own mental health.
You’re so welcome!
Yes it does and it’s so vital to be spoken about. However, many people avoid the topic.
Those are some great ways to support someone who maybe suffering. As support can do so much to help someone.
Anyway thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I highly appreciate it.
One of the easiest ways to get on with life is to get support from friends and family. It is easier to surmount any life issue if you get support. That is why I am a constant advocate of family support, especially that of immediate siblings. But like you identified, it is difficult to identify when someone has a mental issue. And I must say a big thank you for spelling out the right way to communicate with people suffering with such challenges
I could agree more. Having that support truly can make a big difference in one’s life or not. Without that support it can make life a lot more difficult. I like that you thrive to help and support others. I am the same as well. Anyway thanks for your comment it means a lot.
Your article is spot on when dealing with mental health, as we do have to be careful when talking with others. My sister-law just passed away on December 24th, the last month of her life she would cry a lot in pain and just wanted to stay in bed alone away from family. Her brothers didn’t know how to talk with her and just made things worse as they would not listen to her but instead criticized her and said stop crying things could not be that bad when they were. Everyone needs to let the person lead the conversation and don’t diagnose them themselves.
I am so sorry for your loss. That of a mental illness causes pain not on those who are dealing with it but also those around them. That’s why it is so important to just love and be there for the person when they need it the most.