What Is The Meaning of Kindness- A True Element
Kindness is everything, as they say, and they mean it. They are entirely accurate. But allow me to ask you a question. Have you ever stopped to think about what is the meaning of kindness? Is it being kind to yourself and those around you, or is it doing good deeds, speaking kind things, or just being nice? More than one might imagine, kindness has a deep significance.
The Myths of Kindness
Certain misconceptions about kindness exist. The first is that wanting to receive something in return drives one to be kind. The second claim is that showing kindness is a sign of frailty. Finally, a compassionate person lacks the ability or knowledge to refuse. Get rid of these myths because they are all completely false.
It should be instilled in them that being kind is who they are and that’s why they act that way. Most of the time, people act selflessly and without expecting anything in return. Yes, some people will say or do things just to get an advantage. When you stop to think about it, those folks aren’t exactly kind. This is because they ask themselves, “What can I gain from this situation?” These folks are exceedingly poisonous and should be avoided at all costs.
Let go of the idea that anyone being kind is weak if you could just do me a favor. The bulk of the kind people I’ve encountered had strong personalities. Getting the facts about kindness is essential. Someone is not necessarily being nice just because they are kind. Being agreeable to others is not what kindness is about.
Many of the kindest people I’ve known had no trouble declining invitations. They typically respond gently and gracefully when they say no.
Myths are a necessary component of life and can help you grow stronger. However, they have a lot of potential to cause you difficulty.
Comprehending Kindness
I guess it’s necessary to clarify what compassion is and why it is significant. But before we get there, it’s important to comprehend the importance of kindness in everyone’s life.
Being helpful to others can help us feel better mentally. Either by helping yourself or by being good to others, you can achieve this. It also affects how you communicate with people and build connections.
True kindness is defined as demonstrating to someone that you truly care about them, that you have love in your heart, acts of generosity, helpfulness to others, consideration, and concern. Aside from going into more detail, this has involved how one treats another human being.
The striatal areas of the brain are where kindness begins. Ecstasy and love are felt in this place. Your brain is flooded with these emotions whenever you are kind to yourself or others, or vice versa.
The neurons that communicate with one another are involved in all of this. These neurons can be observed mimicking one another when they are happy and excited. In a sense, these neurons create our feelings.
Opening up, making a choice, and carrying it out are also aspects of kindness. Yes, we have the option to be compassionate as people. All there is to it is that. On the other side, being kind typically includes prioritizing the needs of others before our own.
As a result, being kind implies that you’re loving, compassionate and have a tender soul. You become more conscious of the people around you as a result. Making people want to be around you constantly. You exude a kind of joyful, loving energy.
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Kindness vs. Niceness
Unbeknownst to many, being pleasant and being kind are two entirely different things. You probably imagined that kindness and politeness go hand in hand. This is far from the case. However, when someone is kind, they think of others, whereas when someone is nice, they only think of themselves.
When someone is kind, it’s because they care about other people and want to be of service to them. Those who are kind, however, are afraid. They have a tremendous yearning for other people’s favor and acceptance.
In this section, I will discuss some distinctions between kindness and niceness.
- Kindness involves being genuine. While being nice entails doing things for one’s pleasure.
- Being genuine is characterized by kindness. Being nice is a performance.
- When being kind, one can always speak their mind and stand up for themselves. While being nice prevents one from appearing or doing something due to fear of rejection.
- Kindness makes you feel better and motivates you to do good. Niceness, on the other hand, makes one feel as if they are competing.
So, if you’ve been labeled as a less-than-nice person. Being nice is a very negative quality, so that should be a compliment to you.
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The Key- Understanding, and Execution
Understanding what kindness is and how it works, as well as taking the necessary steps to cultivate a kindness quality, is a simple key to being kind to oneself and others.
Genuine love and compassion for oneself and others are shown through being nice.
When you start loving and accepting yourself, your life and how things happen will change. This can cause you to be more kind to others.
First and foremost, how often do you find yourself being unkind to yourself? This is referred to as having low self-esteem, or believing that you are unworthy of anything. It varies according to previous treatment from others, fear of rejection, a lack of communication skills, insecurities, and a desire to feel powerful. Recognizing these issues allows one to recognize their issues and convince them that they need to be more kind. Gratitude practice is one way to accomplish this.
Anyone who, like myself, grew up wanting to be kind and having low self-esteem. To be more kind, one might learn to love more and understand themselves better. I use appreciation in my daily life to recognize what I have and how valuable I am. You may start living a kind life right here.
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Kindness, Both Genuine and Phony
However, being kind demonstrates sincerity. It is possible to develop into a fake. Many individuals are unsure of what kindness entails. This is because persons who are thought to fake frequently display characteristics that are comparable to those of genuinely wonderful people.
Here are a few things to keep an eye out for.
- Genuine kindness is sincere, whereas phony kindness is arrogant.
- When you are kind, you are true to yourself, but being a phony causes you to crave being worshiped.
- Kindness entails being selfless. A phony is all about getting something for nothing.
One may contend that being pleasant and being a phony are the same thing. This is accurate. Nearly always, phonies are people who are both nice and dishonest. Please be mindful of the category to which you belong.
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Possessing a Kindness Proposal
You must have a proposal for kindness to be successful. Nothing is more harmful than being irritated or angry all the time due to events that are beyond your control. This is the reason I came up with my suggestion, which I am sure will help you on your journey of compassion.
1. Appreciate others: We don’t always recognize how much individuals close to us have done for us. Simply take a moment to express your gratitude. Your relationships will benefit as a result of this.
2. Think before you speak: Sometimes we don’t think about how what we say will influence others. Ask yourself, “Will this injure anyone?” before speaking your first thought. Avoid making remarks that are unfavorable, disparaging, or offensive when speaking. People today are very sensitive to slights.
3. Role modeling: Whether you like it or not, there are always eyes on you. Being kind is crucial because of this. If others see you as being kind, they will emulate your behavior.
4. Find ways to volunteer: Finding time to volunteer might be challenging given our hectic lives. However, there are more online places where one can serve as a result of technological improvements. You may, for instance, listen to people online who are in need or write a message to a veteran.
“The act of volunteering will ultimately improve your self-esteem greatly.”
5. Take care of yourself: You will be able to treat people with more kindness when you take better care of yourself. I don’t mean physical appearance; I mean mental awareness.
6. Share: Everybody needs certain things. Why not see if you have it and lend it to someone instead of having them go out and buy it? Make sure they will return it, though. We don’t always get to see the items we share again.
7. Gratitude: I believe that a huge component of living a more kind life is being appreciative. For further details on gratitude, I suggest reading “Gratitude is Everything.” Womansdailyneeds.com has it.
Please remember that you, like everyone else, are a flawed human being. There will undoubtedly be times when you are impolite. To be able to change your unkindness, you must first understand and identify it.
Please leave any questions about compassion in the comments section below. I’m delighted to assist you because I have extensive experience in this area.
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Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
10 Responses
Dear Kiersti,
How you doing? It’s me Angel again.
I cannot get enough of your website, it is so insightful!
Spoken like a true champion.
Kindness and Niceness, never thought it mattered the difference between the 2 words.
Kindness is an action in my opinion, niceness is a personality trait.
Dogs show they are nice by wagging their tail or licking someone’s hand when offered.
Kindness is an action like taking a dog in and sheltering it from the sun’s heat or cold weather.
I honestly believe that animals are more kinder natured than humans because they act on instinct, they don’t have the mind to reason things like we do.
Plus, I think they show more of a maternal instinct better than most adults too when it comes to knowing when danger is afoot.
~Angelina
I’m pretty fantastic actually. Hope your doing well of course. I never knew it mattered either until I did the research and found that they do mean different things. I like how you described the two very beautiful. Thanks for your thoughts and checking out my site.
Hi Kiersti.
I love, love this topic. Niceness is a lot of times misconstrued for kindness, I am glad you have demystified this. There is a lot of selfishness and a lack of empathy today. It costs nothing to be kind. People are going through a lot in this era with the pandemic and economic recession. Many are on the edge due to experiences no one cares to find out. Having been in a dark place, and having a smile and a kind word from people I didn’t know and never got a chance to meet again was more than I ever imagined. Our genuine actions no matter how small make a whole difference to someone else’s world. I vowed to always be kind and share positivity with the world, for it was done for me. Continue implementing your proposal, the world is a better place for it.
I loved writing it so thank you. It is sad how more people are only caring about themselves then that of other people. There needs to be more love in the world. That’s the difference with me I love helping people out. It saddens me seeing people hurt. That’s why I find kindness really to be key. Just like you said just one act can change one’s day.
Hi Kiersti
Thanks for your interesting and profound post! I have never thought about these 2 concepts that can look the same but really different when we explore further: being kind and being nice. I can’t agree with you more that we need to be more kind truly from within, rather than just trying to be nice to please others or earn approval from others.
Thanks again,
Grace
Your welcome. Yes the two concepts are very interesting when you look deeper within.
If you are kind to others, you will feel good about yourself. Through your actions and deeds, you can show love and compassion towards the people in your life. With practice, you can become better at this. If you are kind to someone when they least expect it, then they will feel just how much that act of kindness meant to them. Even if they pretend not to notice your kindness, they will be genuinely thankful for what you did.
It’s important to show compassion and kindness in order to feel connected with others. By doing this, we can learn how to love ourselves better too.! We have to learn how to be kind to ourselves before we can expect others to show kindness towards us. When you are kind to yourself, then you will feel that your life is worth living. You see, many people are not kind to themselves. They don’t care about themselves enough. And if they don’t care about themselves, then why would they care about other people?
Let’s say you are having a hard day. You get into an argument with someone, then your favorite TV show gets cancelled, and your car breaks down on the way to work. Would you be kind to yourself in this situation? Would you give yourself a break? Or would you berate yourself for all of your flaws and mistakes? If you struggle with self-kindness, then it is time to change. You have to learn how to be nice to yourself when life tries its hardest to push you down.
Self-kindness alleviates stress. When we are stressed out, our body releases hormones that cause us additional stress. That’s why it is important to make sure we do what we can to lower our stress levels. Self-kindness is one of the best ways to alleviate your stress. When you look at yourself in the mirror and you say nice things about who you are, then that boosts your self-esteem and makes you feel better.
It’s true that when you feel kind you feel good but that’s not why people do it. It’s better to always be kind no matter what. Yes not everyone will notice on a conscience level but I believe deep down they will. In reality so many people have no kindness or genuine love for who they are. That’s why they seek it from others. However that never seems to work. One will never be kind to others if they can’t even be kind to themselves correct. As the situation there I would be kind but it’s also about attitude that effects your day. It’s better to be kind and grateful then upset about things. Especially things not under your control. However my brain works differently. Other people might let it get to them. With that they take it out on other people and that isn’t kind. It does that’s why I wrote my article on dealing with low self esteem. If we can deal with low self esteem then we feel better and can combat the things that come our way. Thanks for your input.
Honestly I never thought about the different of being nice from being kind. Most would think these are similar but reading your article really made me understand that they are not, which is surprising! I guess there are a lot of people that are just nice and only seek acceptance from the rest.
When writing the article I only had the intention to write about kindness. Then upon my research I found that kindness and niceness are very different things. It’s interesting what one can find when looking deeper within something. Thanks for reading.