Why I Want To Help You — Because I’ve Been There
If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you’re looking for something — maybe comfort, understanding, or simply the feeling that you’re not the only one going through what you’re going through. Or maybe… you need help with self-love. That’s why I want to help you — because I’ve been there too, feeling lost, unsupported, and unsure of how to move forward. I created this space so you don’t have to face those feelings alone anymore.
You’ve tried to hold it together for everyone else. You’ve put on the brave face, said “I’m fine” when you weren’t, and buried parts of yourself just to get through the day. You’ve been told to “toughen up” or “get over it” — as if healing was ever that simple.
Let me be the first to tell you: You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy of love, support, or peace.
I see you — because I was you.
I know what it feels like to doubt your worth, to wake up and feel like you’re already behind, and to carry the weight of your past like an invisible backpack no one else notices.
I know how painful it is when you’re trying to grow, but life keeps pulling you backward. I know what it’s like to feel like you’re the only one struggling with self-worth while everyone else seems so confident, so happy, so whole.
I’ve been there — in the silence, the confusion, the fear. I’ve been the girl who needed help with self-love but didn’t even know where to begin. I’ve been the woman craving personal growth but too weighed down by past pain to take the first step.
And I created WomansDailyNeeds.com for that exact reason.
This blog isn’t just content — it’s compassion. It’s not just wellness — it’s wholeness. It’s not just for reading — it’s for rebuilding.
This space was born from a deep place of pain — but also a powerful place of purpose. Because after years of being overlooked, unsupported, and silenced… I realized that maybe all those experiences weren’t meant to break me, but to build the bridge that would one day help you.
🌧️ My Story: From Silence to Strength
Growing up, I struggled with something that many people didn’t understand — epilepsy. And because of it, I became a target.
I was bullied relentlessly by my peers, laughed at, excluded, and made to feel like I was broken. The very things I couldn’t control were used against me — not just by classmates, but often ignored by the very people who were supposed to protect me.
My teachers turned the other cheek. They saw what was happening, but they didn’t intervene. And that silence… that hurt more than the words ever did.
I remember sitting in class, feeling like I was disappearing. No one stepped in. No one asked if I was okay. I was struggling in every way — physically, emotionally, mentally — and I had no one to turn to.
That kind of pain doesn’t just disappear. It stays. It shapes you. But instead of letting it break me, I let it become my why.
🔥 Why I Care So Deeply
I didn’t have anyone to help me when I needed it most — so I became the person I needed back then.
That’s why I created WomansDailyNeeds.com. Because there are too many women still feeling like I once did: invisible, unheard, and unsupported.
This is my way of saying: I’ve got you now.
Whether you’re dealing with chronic health issues, mental exhaustion, low self-worth, or just need someone to remind you that you matter — this space is for you.
🧭 Turning Pain into Purpose
The struggles I went through — epilepsy, bullying, being ignored — they weren’t fair. But they gave me something powerful: empathy.
I know what it’s like to feel completely alone. I know how it feels to want to scream for help but not know who’s listening — or if anyone is. And I also know what it feels like to start slowly rebuilding your sense of self-worth, one tiny step at a time.
That’s what I want to help you do.
🌱 What You’ll Find on WomansDailyNeeds.com
This site isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real. It’s about healing, day by day — and knowing that it’s okay to not have it all together.
Here’s what I’ve created for you:
✨ Mental & Emotional Health
Tips for managing anxiety and stress
Confidence-boosting tools and affirmations
Journaling prompts to help you process your emotions
💖 Self-Love & Personal Growth
Supportive resources to help you reconnect with yourself
Tools to rebuild your self-worth and inner peace
Encouragement to grow at your own pace, without pressure
💖 Physical Wellness (Chronic Illness-Friendly)
Gentle, back- and body-friendly workout ideas
Simple recipes that nourish you without the overwhelm
Wellness advice that honors your energy, not drains it
💬 Empowerment & Support
Honest blog posts on self-love, boundaries, and resilience
Resources for when you feel alone
A reminder that your pain doesn’t define you — your strength does
🙋♀️ You’re Not Alone Anymore
If you’ve ever felt like:
You didn’t fit in
You were misunderstood
You were tired of pretending you’re okay
You needed someone to finally say, “I get it”
Then this is your space.
I’m here to remind you:
You are not broken.
You are not too much.
And you are so worthy of love, support, and peace.
💌 Let’s Stay Connected
You don’t have to do life alone anymore. Let’s heal together.
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📢 To Every Woman Who Feels Alone
I know what it’s like to walk through life with pain people can’t see. I know how hard it is to show up every day when your heart is heavy and your body feels like it’s betraying you.
But I also know this:
You are powerful.
You are still here.
And your story isn’t over.
If I can rise from the pain of being bullied, neglected, and overlooked — so can you.
And this time, you won’t have to do it alone.
So welcome to WomansDailyNeeds.com — where your story matters, your feelings are safe, and your healing is a priority.
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Kiersti writes on self-love and personal development professionally. Over the past ten or so years, she has studied self-love and personal growth. Visit https://womansdailyneeds.com/ to learn more about what she does, and like her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/womansdailyneeds to keep up with her.
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So, this is me. Your WA’er!!! Hi I am Shakida, my friends call me Kida. But yes to everything you shared here! Sis! I even wrote a post on this at WA about two years ago titled “What is your Passion?” I also wrote in a post not shared with this titled, “What is Your Why?” I love it! So, i am that kid who was practically invisible when I was younger.
The teachers didn’t care that I was being bullied by male and female student because nearly went blind in one of my eyes and people use to call me four eyed! Making fun. I got mad enough to bring a weapon to school as a child. Thank God I was not one of those snap type kids.
I didnt use it. I went to my pastor and my mom and ministers of my church about my anger issues and got counseling. I count my blessings because now a days it is wild with what goes on in these fake churches. Many people don’t have nowhere to turn to and back then 20+ years ago I did and I still do today.
As I got older the anger went away for a while because I learned how to deal with it. Then I got around adult peoples which made my anger that I originally got help with breakout. I have never been so angry as I am now as an adult behind people. This took me 7 years to get past. Because I was holding on to everything negative someone did to me. Ex boyfriends, supposed to be friends that turned out fake. It took a lot out of me. Because I stayed angry.
But I sought out counseling again, professional counseling and learn how to draw the line and walk away where I needed too. So, I now teach others who comes to me for wisdom how to deal with their anger and pain and I am telling you sister from another mother I have heard horror stories and yet found a way to help these people.
I have been called ugly, four eyed, stupid, virgin all your life 🙄, girl like what?, and now these same people in their 30s looking at me side ways saying you aint got no kids? Im like uhhh No? 🤨 Do you know the cost of pampers? baby clothes? Shoes? etc? Do you even know how much it cost to raise a child?
I have been through enough emotional, Sexual, and physical abuse, i just look now. Like what? I am that girl that had to put on a strong face and steel her emotions. This type of mind set kept me out of enough danger that would have landed me either in a coffin or prison. I was always hanging by myself until I really got into adulthood. Some of my best friends got kids but no fathers around or mothers.
Its wiild, when I look back at my childhood I say to myself today, My life was not all that bad. It was hard but not terrible. My adult life have not been easy. Its been traumatic at points but not impossible to overcome. I did not learn to feel comfortable in my skin until I got to the age of 24 really 28. Because that is when I stop caring what people thought of me.
Now, that I am a few years older, I could careless and will tell you where to go if you try me! 😆 I am now, just now in my 30s learning to be happy. I dont know why? But I am learning to be happy. Maybe it is because I am blessed not with the things that I want but all that I need.
My mom and dad or both still around married now going on 37 years, my siblings are all grown along with my cousins. I look back and want to write a book! Because I miss so much of my young life. We are all worthy of book being written about us. But we got to get the pen and paper and be willing to write.
The journaling OMG I do that so much. I write to God and myself. I journal so much I need stacks of paper. I should be a writer as much as I journal. I am so full of stories that I could share it would take a life time to write them all down.
But I made it, I just now became comfortable in my skin. Thanks for the article it really gave me joy!
Ms. Kida
Sis… wow. I feel every single word.
Thank you so much for sharing your truth—it’s raw, powerful, and full of resilience. You are the definition of strength, healing, and growth. From being overlooked and bullied to now becoming a light for others? That’s not just survival—that’s transformation. 🙌🏽✨
What really touched me is how you turned your pain into purpose. You got help when it mattered most, and now you’re doing the same for others. That’s legacy work. That’s real impact.
Also—yes to journaling! 📖 I believe our stories are sacred, and the more we write them down, the more we heal. And girl, you absolutely should write that book. Your life is filled with the kind of wisdom people need right now.
I’m proud of you, Kida. For choosing healing. For choosing growth. For finally choosing you. Keep shining, keep writing, and never stop sharing your light. 💛
I wrote a long response to your blog here. I really love what you were talking about and shared my experience. But my response disappeared. I hope you can see it in the comments. But anyway, long story short. I was a bullied child, called black, ugly, four eyed, stupid and became angry throughout the years. I had a support system and family so I was able to get counseling. I brought a knife to school as a kid and thank God!
I changed my mind. I was just angry and misunderstood. As I got older, I really didn’t start coming out of my skin until I was 24 then really came out at 28. I was the finest thing around you couldn’t tell me nothing lol! But I was impressionable still. Boyfriends came and gone. Back stabbing friends made me want to be a hermit again and loner.
But as I got older, I learned to depend on God and family more than anything. Just buried the last of my grandparents a week after my birthday and on the same day a Sunday. Grand Ma Mary Ruth Dennis. Past at 86 years old Jan. 21, 2024. It broke my heart. Then this year I lost an uncle he died before Valentines Day. My mom’s twin sister broke to pieces.
If I tell you I have a book of life time of pain and happiness it would be several volumes long if I were to write it. I came up fighting boys in school thinking being a girl was weak. Chile, (in my Louisiana voice) I refuse now in my 30s to let anyone take my peace because they are miserable.
Took me a while to learn that throughout all of my anger. While being strong and yet secretly pissed off! Wanting to take peoples heads off! But I changed for the better and I so love your website. Because there women out there with nowhere to turn. I am doing my best out here on the street to stop tragedy from happening. Giving advice where I can and helping when I can.
Keep doing the good work! People need help and not all of us can afford a license so called Professional. I was able to find a few good professionals on YouTube who were offering some of their services for free. But people like you would be trusted a lot quicker than the Pros out here. Because you are one of us who survive. Because you know how it feels to be ignored by teachers like me and thank God I didn’t use the weapon I brought to school as a child.
“Some books that people will ever read will be the book of your life.” It’s an old saying that my old folks and elders in my church used to always tell me coming up. I didn’t know what I meant then. but I do now that I am becoming the next elder.
Thank you so much for your post and website, it is doing some good!
Ms. Kida
Dear Ms. Kida,
Your message brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for taking the time to share your story. I’m deeply sorry your original comment disappeared—I truly hope it can be recovered because your words deserve to be read and honored.
Reading your journey—the pain, the anger, the growth, and the strength—you’ve lived through and transformed into wisdom is nothing short of powerful. The fact that you chose healing, chose not to act on your pain, and now choose to pour into others says so much about the woman you’ve become. And yes, I believe you are one of the finest things around, not just in beauty, but in spirit!
I know all too well about those so-called experts. Many of them, like Matthew Hussey, pretend to care but are really just in it for the money—not the healing, not the helping. It’s heartbreaking because people come to them in their most vulnerable state, looking for real guidance. That’s why voices like yours matter. That’s why this space matters.
Losing loved ones, especially those who helped shape us, is a heartbreak that lingers. Please accept my condolences on the passing of your Grandmother Mary Ruth and your uncle. Your strength through it all, especially while still showing up for others, is inspiring beyond words.
And I couldn’t agree more with what your elders said: “Some books that people will ever read will be the book of your life.” You, Ms. Kida, are a walking, breathing book of resilience and grace. Thank you for choosing to use your life to help stop tragedy, to give advice, and to be a light for women who feel like they’re walking through darkness.
You’re exactly why I started this website—for women like us, by women like us. Thank you for reminding me why this work matters. Keep doing what you’re doing. The world needs you.
With love and respect,
Kiersti
Founder, WomansDailyNeeds.com
This is such an honest and relatable post — thank you for sharing it. Many of us know someone who’s been in that position, but it’s true that not everyone finds genuine empathy or the strength to help others through it.
I really appreciate how you’ve turned your own experience into motivation to support and encourage others. It’s clear your words come from a place of understanding, which makes this site such a helpful resource. Well done.
I’m curious — when did you feel that shift in your own thought process, from going through it yourself to deciding you wanted to help others? This is a huge step and many people who have been down this path never reach that point.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful and heartfelt message — it truly means a lot. You’re absolutely right: not everyone finds genuine empathy or the strength to turn their pain into purpose, and I don’t take that shift lightly.
For me, the turning point wasn’t just one moment — it was a series of realizations over time. I started noticing that the very things that once made me feel broken were the same things others were silently struggling with too. And the more I shared pieces of my journey, the more I saw how it gave others the courage to open up. That’s when it clicked — maybe what I went through wasn’t just meant to hurt me, but to shape me into someone who could help others feel seen, heard, and supported.
It’s not always easy, and healing is never a straight line, but choosing to be that person I needed when I was younger has given me a sense of peace and purpose that I never expected. Thank you again for taking the time to ask and connect — it means the world.
This article, “Why I Want To Help You — Because I’ve Been There,” resonates deeply because it speaks from a place of genuine experience and empathy. It’s powerful when someone chooses to help not out of obligation, but because they truly understand the struggle. I’ve faced similar challenges myself, and I know how isolating and overwhelming they can feel. That’s why I appreciate this kind of content—it doesn’t just offer advice, it offers hope. It sparks an important discussion about the value of shared experiences and how our personal journeys can become a guide for others. What stood out most to me was the authenticity; it’s not just words, it’s lived truth.
Reading this felt like sitting down with a friend who just gets it—no explanations needed. That moment you described, where helping others becomes part of your own healing? Chills. It’s wild how our deepest struggles often become the exact thing that connects us to people we’re meant to uplift.
I’ve noticed this ripple effect in my own life too—the advice I give most fiercely is usually what I needed to hear years ago. There’s something almost sacred about saying “I’ve been there” to someone in the trenches. Not as a polished guru, but as someone still dusting off their knees from the last fall.
Your honesty about the messy middle—not just the before-and-after—is what makes this so powerful. Makes me wonder: What’s the one lesson that took you the longest to learn, but now becomes your loudest rallying cry for others?
Thank you for turning your “been there” into a lighthouse.
Wow—your message truly moved me. Thank you for seeing the heart of it so clearly. You’re right, there is something sacred about saying “I’ve been there” from a place that’s still raw and real, not perfectly wrapped in a bow. That’s where the real connection happens.
As for the lesson that took me the longest to learn? It’s this: you don’t have to be fully healed to help others—you just have to be honest. For years, I thought I had to have it all figured out before I could show up for anyone else. But now I realize that showing up in the middle of the mess—with compassion, not perfection—is what creates space for others to do the same.
Thank you for being part of that ripple effect, and for sharing your voice with such depth and grace. We need more of that kind of real.
Hi Kiersti. I love the idea for this website, and I am sure that many woman are going to be able to resonate with you, as many are going through daily struggles of their own.
Growing up and being bullied is no fun, as it stays with you for life, but it is sad just how many people have been bullied in some way during their early years, for many different reasons. I was bullied because I was always the shortest in the class, but many had it much worst than I did.
I look forward to reading more about how you overcame these obstacles and will bookmark this website as something to read for daily inspiration.
Thank you so much for your support. I really just want to help people as best as I can.